Thoughts on love

Happy Valentine's Day everyone!

I know, I know, if you're sick of the phrase or feels that V day is too commercialised, you're not alone. But I just want to pen down some thoughts on not just V day but love in general. Different people express love differently. Some like to show it publicly, some like to only show it privately, some 'go big or go home', some like small intimate thoughtful gifts etc. Well, people are generally programmed differently. But if there's a day (Valentine's Day) where everyone can share and express their love, why not? Nothing bad ever comes out of expressing love, other than the people who don't celebrate and give hate comments because they see other people celebrating >.< 

Yes, it is commercialised, yes, the flower businesses are laughing all the way to the bank, yes, people like showing off, yes, the bigger the better etc. So what? Businesses need these celebrations to boom, girls need to feel the 'extra love' on that particular day, some guys need this special day to express their love where on normal days they are kinda shy, couples need an extra special day to just celebrate 'love'. Because truth be told, people get complacent, people get tired from their daily work, people take the other half for granted sometimes, people don't pamper themselves sometimes.

So, okay, everyday should be valentine's day. But if there is no V day, is everyday really valentine's day? Do you wake up everyday, planning for the other half a special date night? Do you buy her extra flowers every other day? Do you take some time to buy him a gift that he really wanted? Then why not? V day is just another day but it's a day themed with 'love'. I see social media being flooded with love messages, love gifts, love everything. Isn't that nice to see? Rather than focusing on the current corona virus, the daily hectic life, the work stress, but to see people celebrating love, that's a happy moment. Sometimes, people just need to take some time and focus on just 'love' and for each 'love' given, the world could be a better place.

Then you ask, what is love? Does love come in the form of a gift? Is it in the form of money? Is it in making love? Or is it something deeper? Something which comes from the heart which cannot be expressed in physical gift? I say, all of the above. Again, people are programmed differently. People express love differently. If A wants to express his love by singing on a piano to his loved one, that is his way of expressing love. If B wants to buy his wife 990 roses, that is his way of expressing love. If C buys a stalk of rose for his girlfriend, that is also love! If D just wants a day of cuddling with her boyfriend and watching movie at home, well, who's to say it's not love? Love can be expressed in so many ways and no one is in any position to compare, to judge, to hate, to say that whatever the other half did in his own love language is not love. Even self love is love. Who's to say, a single lady going out on a spa alone on V day is not love? She probably needed some self love and some self pampering session. What I wanted to say is that there is no one definitive word or action to describe love and there is also no right or wrong in celebrating V day. Just remember not to compare, judge or hate. Spread the love and once again, Happy Valentine's Day =) xoxo